Boudoir and self-love begin with letting go: the power of Undoing
If you’re searching for boudoir photography that feels like healing or life coaching that actually shifts your spirit, girl, let me tell you, it starts with undoing. Before you reclaim confidence or wear lingerie like a crown, you’ve got to let some things fall apart.
Section 1 of my Love You Louder journal is called “The Undoing” for a reason. Because real self-love doesn’t start with action. It starts with release.
Imagine trying to grow a garden while clinging to last season’s dead plants. It’s messy. It’s painful. It’s smothering. You can’t build anything real if you’re weighed down by shit that doesn’t fit anymore. Old identities, outdated survival modes, or the lies you inherited from people who never saw your full self are all old growth you can start pruning now.
Undoing is not weakness. It is spiritual bravery.
Let’s Be Honest, We’re Carrying Too Much.
As women, especially since 2016, many of us have been holding grief, rage, fear, and exhaustion in our nervous systems and still getting up every day to perform wellness, perform safety, perform okay-ness.
But survival mode is not your natural state. And when we finally put that mask down? Whew Girl! The grief underneath can feel like a tidal wave. I’ve seen it in my studio. I’ve heard it in coaching sessions. I’ve felt it in my own bones.
That’s why Section 1 in the Love You Louder journal asks you to name what you're carrying, and what you're ready to drop.
The journal includes a Self-Love Baseline audit. It’s a no-BS look at how you talk to yourself, what beliefs you’re still gripping to, and what wounds still whisper “you’re not enough.” We ask ourselves:
What did I once believe that no longer serves me?
Where am I performing instead of feeling?
What have I outgrown?
Undoing is Sacred Work (and It’s Allowed to Be Ugly)
There is no sexy way to unlearn shame. There is no neat and tidy path to letting go of trauma responses. But there is magic in the mess. There is divinity in declaring, “I don’t want to carry this anymore.”
So if your “self-love” journey feels like crying in the car or quitting something that once defined you? Good. You’re doing it right.
You’re Allowed to Burn It Down.
Not everything you’ve been told about healing is true. You don’t have to fix every flaw or have all the answers before you’re allowed to take a deep breath. Sometimes healing looks like burning the old story down and letting the ashes tell the truth.
With all of this said, I’ll ask you now:
What are you pruning this season?
What might grow in its place?
I think you’ve probably always knew what the answers are, but now you have the space to explore!
And if you need someone to witness your undoing with grace, my studio is waiting. The Love You Louder experience doesn’t just guide you through this with pen and paper, it invites you into your body, into my lens, into your becoming.
