Boudoir and self-love begin with letting go: the power of Undoing
As women, especially since 2016, many of us have been holding grief, rage, fear, and exhaustion in our nervous systems and still getting up every day to perform wellness, perform safety, perform okay-ness.
But survival mode is not your natural state. And when we finally put that mask down? Whew Girl! The grief underneath can feel like a tidal wave. I’ve seen it in my studio. I’ve heard it in coaching sessions. I’ve felt it in my own bones.
That’s why Section 1 in the Love You Louder journal asks you to name what you're carrying, and what you're ready to drop.
The journal includes a Self-Love Baseline audit. It’s a no-BS look at how you talk to yourself, what beliefs you’re still gripping to, and what wounds still whisper “you’re not enough.” We ask ourselves:
What did I once believe that no longer serves me?
Where am I performing instead of feeling?
What have I outgrown?
That’s Not Feminism. That’s Control.
Somewhere along the way, parts of the internet decided that feminism means covering up, toning down, and sitting pretty in a box labeled “respectable.” And nah, we’re not doing that. We didn’t come this far just to come this far. We aren’t just to trading in one set of rules for another.
The latest example? Sabrina Carpenter’s album cover. Baby girl is out here in full goddess mode: body on soft, pose on power, giving us submissive in her power, strong, and fun all at the same damn time. And yet, folks have the nerve to say she was “doing it for the male gaze” and “setting women back.”