That’s Not Feminism. That’s Control.
Somewhere along the way, parts of the internet decided that feminism means covering up, toning down, and sitting pretty in a box labeled “respectable.” And nah, we’re not doing that. We didn’t come this far just to come this far. We aren’t just to trading in one set of rules for another.
The latest example? Sabrina Carpenter’s album cover. Baby girl is out here in full goddess mode: body on soft, pose on power, giving us submissive in her power, strong, and fun all at the same damn time. And yet, folks have the nerve to say she was “doing it for the male gaze” and “setting women back.”
Boudoir Is More Than Sexy;It’s a Revolution- Nc Boudoir Photography
Let’s be real, boudoir looks sexy. The lace, the poses, the lighting, the curves, the champagne. It’s easy to assume it’s all about the aesthetic. But if you’ve ever been in front of my camera, you already know the truth:
Boudoir is more than sexy, it’s a spiritual rebellion. It’s a radical act of coming home to yourself.
In a world that teaches women to shrink, hide, conform, and constantly question our worth, standing in your skin, unfiltered, unashamed, and fully present, is nothing short of revolutionary.
boudoir isn’t a one time experience. period.- NC Boudoir Photography
But here’s the thing no one talks about enough: boudoir IS NOT a one-time experience. It’s not a “check it off your self-love to-do list and never do it again” moment. Boudoir is a journey, and like any journey, you grow. You change. You come back to it with new energy, new stories, new reasons to celebrate your body and your evolution.
And that’s why coming back for another session isn’t extra, it’s essential.
Confidence Isn’t Loud, It’s Consistent- Nc Boudoir Photography
Truth is, confidence doesn’t always look like your physical attributes or walking into the room like you own it (although hell yes do that!). Often times, confidence looks like showing up for yourself in little ways, especially when no one’s watching.
It’s getting dressed and saying “you’re doing great” to your reflection, even if yesterday was a mess. It’s choosing clothes that feel like you, not what others expect you to wear (We talk about this in our Sustainable Confidence series with My Thrift Fix).
It’s eating when you're hungry, resting when you’re tired, and saying no without over-explaining and not feeling guilty.
You’re Not Asking for too much, You’re Asking the wrong…- NC Boudoir Photography
Muthaaa Fuckaaa! I love those amazing lyrics from “To Me”- by Alina Baraz. When you realize that not everyone is for you, your heart can begin to confidently open itself to others, without fear of getting hurt! You’re Not Too Much, You’re Just Not for Everyone (and That’s Okay). Let’s get this out of the way: If anyone has ever called you “too much,” they were probably just too small for your kind of magic. And honestly? That’s a them problem.
The Art of Neutrality: How to Shift Negative Self-Talk Without Forcing Positivity- boudoir photography nc
Neutrality is about finding a middle ground between negativity and forced optimism. It gives you space to be realistic while allowing room for growth, without pressuring yourself into feeling aggressive positivity. By embracing neutrality, you acknowledge your current emotions and circumstances without judgment, making it easier to navigate challenges without becoming overwhelmed. Instead of feeling like you must immediately adopt a positive mindset, you give yourself permission to move at a pace that feels natural. This approach fosters self-compassion and resilience, as it allows for gradual progress without the fear of failure or self-criticism.
Emotionally Ready vs. Physically Ready for Your Boudoir Session: Here's What Really Matters
A boudoir session isn’t about trying to hide or “fix” anything about you. It’s about showing up, just as you are, and saying, “I am enough.” And look, I know that’s easier said than done. We’re all our own worst critics. But I promise, once you start leaning into that self-love, you’ll feel unstoppable.
Self Love & Body Positivity: How To Love YOURSelf Unapologetically-Self Love Boudoir- Raleigh NC
It’s time to start loving yourself unapologetically. As a woman, self-love and body positivity are essential for our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. So how do we go about developing a positive relationship with ourselves and our bodies? In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of self-love and body positivity and provide tips to help you learn to love yourself unapologetically. Self-love and body positivity are powerful tools that can have a positive impact on your life. So, let's get started!
Women of Color and Boudoir: Why We are Worth It- Self Empowerment Boudoir- Nine19 Photography Raleigh NC
Boudoir... I found myself repeating the word over and over again as if the definition in Websters Dictionary was going to change. I couldn't believe that I was about to do a BOUDOIR photoshoot. I felt a wave of emotions! I immediately thought to myself, "what would people say? Maybe I should hit the gym a few extra times this week... What would my mother say?!" I was nervous and excited but boudoir just felt like a "dirty" word. I researched the definition, "a French word meaning a lady's private dressing room or bedroom." Is that why it felt so dirty? Was it the word 'private' dressing room or bedroom that made it feel so risqué? Yet, when I am alone in my bedroom playing dress up in the mirror wearing my favorite lingerie or hoodie is when I feel the best, it's when I feel the sexiest, the prettiest... the most comfortable. Then it clicked! Boudoir wasn't about dressing up in sexy lingerie... It was more about feeling empowered, loving the skin that you're in, and body positivity.
Allow Me to Re-introduce Myself... - 2020 A Clear View- Celebratory Boudoir- Raleigh NC
…My name is KIM, K to the I M haha, YAS I’m BACK! After a tumultuous year ending a toxic marriage, moving, and just fucking surviving, I am stoked to feel happy and like myself again! No longer in survival mode, I am thriving and it feels amazing! I was going to spend this entire blog spilling tea and ruining lives (I’m a Virgo, don’t judge me) but why waste my time, your time, and these amazing portraits talking about people who don’t really matter anymore? My name is Kimberly Angel, nothing more and nothing less. Y’all, it feels so good to be back!
Speaking of these amazing portraits, I teamed up with the incredible John Kornegay Photography to create some serious magic at GoodVibes Studio in Apex NC!
New Location Alert: Chateau O'Boyle- Nine19 Photography Raleigh NC- Wendell NC
As an artist, you have to do things every once and awhile to keep you and your work fresh! For me that can look like buying new set pieces or creating new poses for clients, but sometimes I have to take big steps and just completely step out of my comfort zone. This time that looked like calling my bestie and muse, Kassy, and dragging her to my new bestie and hair and makeup artist house and shooting there! It was fun to play around with new lighting and challenges. The affectionately named “Chateau O’Boyle” was built in 1920 is absolutely beautiful. This old lady is being renovated by Sara of Modern Alchemy and her hubby! Though she still has some work to be done, she has some amazing features and details. #Issavibe at COB but I am here for it!