Loving the surface and the soul
If you’ve been looking for reasons to celebrate your body as it is now, or trying to reconnect with your sensuality, this is your sign: it’s okay to love the surface.
In Section 3 of the Love You Louder journal, we move out of the internal deep-diving and into the sensual, the visible, the everyday. Because loving yourself isn’t just about digging into your past or rewriting trauma. Sometimes it’s as simple and radical as looking in the mirror and saying, “Damn. I look good today.”
Let’s say it together: there’s nothing shallow about self-admiration.
Your deserve to see yourself through loving eyes
Let’s break the myth that “real” self-love is only about the inner work. Yes, healing and mindset shifts matter, but so does the way you move through the world. The way you hold your head up. The way you moisturize your thighs with intention. The way you pick out lingerie just for yourself.
We’ve been taught to skip the surface. To avoid vanity. To ignore our reflection for fear of seeming vein, but my loves, that’s not self-love. That’s self-neglect dressed up as humility.
Loving the surface means reclaiming your reflection.
It means building rituals around pleasure. It means engaging with your body like it deserves joy, not just functionality.
Your body is not a problem to solve
This section of the Love You Louder journal asks you to touch, witness, and celebrate your body without judgment. Not because it’s perfect, but because it’s yours.
We do this through:
Mirror work (no filter, no flexing)
Five-senses rituals (what textures, scents, and sounds light you up?)
Clothing and adornment that feels delicious to YOU
One of the prompts in this section asks: What three things do I love about my body exactly as it is today?
Try it. Today. Not “when I hit my goal weight.” Not “once I fix my posture.” Now.
And don’t be afraid to go deep into the superficial. Put on the red lipstick. Take the mirror selfie. And book the boudoir session already!
Because embodiment doesn’t have to be quiet or invisible. Sometimes it’s loud and sparkly (and we love a little sparkle around here!).
beauty is a birthright, not a bonus
You are not too much. You are not a show-off. You are not “trying too hard.”
You are someone who deserves to be delighted and aroused by her own reflection.
This is about claiming visibility on your terms. Loving the surface is about saying: “I like what I see and I don’t need to apologize for it.”
Let that be your truth today.
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